So I met someone else. This has my world spinning in a different direction than I thought. I have not met up with VG yet, we were talking and of course had plans that he eventually broke, his work excuses started up again. I get it, but I don’t. It really all is work-related but the constant work excuse is tiring and wearing thin now. And I can say with absolute certainty there is not someone else, at least for him, but the lack of plans is just not acceptable if he really wants to make this work. I honestly don’t know where we are headed, if anywhere anymore, but I need to take a step back and reassess.
So the new guy and I met up in my town for a drink and the place where we were supposed to meet was closed for the Labor Day holiday. As I waited outside, I saw him walking toward me. He is absolutely adorable and has the most incredible crystal clear blue eyes I have ever seen on a human besides my Dad. As he approached me he gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek and told me I was absolutely stunning. We talked a little bit and I said to him let’s get in my car and go to another place that I knew would be open. We had talked quite a bit before our official date so I was comfortable with him.
Our date started at 6pm and we ended up going to a little wine bar by me and had some small plates of cheese, fruit, crackers, hummus, olives – all the good stuff. We talked non-stop. He is extremely extroverted like me (yay) and we have a lot in common. The hours flew by and next thing we knew the place was closing at 10pm (thanks again Labor Day holiday weekend). He said he didn’t want our date to end, and neither did I, and was there another place we could go? I said let’s go back to my place, hang and listen to music (more on that later). I honestly was not worried about him coming over. He kissed me as we got into my car and oh man, he did not disappoint.
As I’ve written before I love music. I have a wide variety of taste, recall lyrics eerily and will sing my heart out. New/old guy and I listened to so much music together and sang together all the time. After our breakup it was hard to listen to music again, particularly my itunes playlists because he always wanted me to put on my playlists. We debated about music, artists, lyrics, we cooked to music, kissed to music, drank to music, drove with music blaring, sat on the beach listening to music. We played name that tune and artist with each other. And with the Sunday night date guy, aka Guitar Hero, music is a big part of his life too. He is a Gemini like me (so there are literally 4 of us conversing), outgoing, tall, dark hair, those damn blue eyes that suck you in, and a musician by night. Yes, a real musician. He has a day job that he enjoys and pays the bills but he has been in a band for decades. They actually write music, perform and produce what was formerly known as records/cds. He plays rhythm guitar, trombone and sings lead vocals.
We had a blast together. It was all pretty PG, well maybe PG-R for the rest of the night. We did not do the deed although believe me he had me totally turned on, but because he, wait for it – wants to get to know me first he didn’t want to jump into that. He said he really likes me and told me he is wildly attracted to me and I have to say I feel quite the attraction too. Shit, this wasn’t supposed to happen! This was not in my plans. But it did, and I was smiling when he left my house at 2:15 am (remember our date started at 6pm). The time flew. He actually commented at one point that he had to get his kids in the morning so he needed to leave by midnight. We looked at the clock and he was like holy shit it’s 2am! I kid you not. We had no idea as we were not keeping track of time.
I have school this week at night so we made plans to see each other Thursday night. He doesn’t live far from where I work. I got a sweet text when he got home (at 3am) telling me what a great time he had and how he can’t wait to see me again. He then texted me later in the morning and told me I have incredible eyes as well (they’re kind of a blue/gray depending on what I am wearing) and he had a hard time concentrating on what I was saying. He is a believer in relationships not hookups and serial dating. We made plans a few weeks out as well to go see a band that he likes in Brooklyn and he wants me to come see him play at the end of the month. It was an epic first date. Haven’t had one of those in a very long time.
I am looking forward to seeing him again. We are going to take this slow (even if it physically kills me lol). We have enjoyed our conversations and now each others company too. We will not elevate anything to relationship status until the time is right, if it even ever comes to that. He has fallen hard in the past and been disappointed – we share similar relationship stories. We like each other and I see some great fun ahead and if it turns into something else it will be organic and not forced. No matter what, I was laughing and smiling again but most of all enjoying kissing someone who believe me can freaking kiss like a boss! Man, oh man. It’s always nice to feel sexy especially when it involves not just how you look but as he says my intelligence as well.
But most of all I had fun and re-discovered my love of music and being able to listen to my ipod without feeling nostalgic or sad.
My life never goes as planned, especially my love life, but then again do any of our lives ever really go as planned? People enter into our lives for a reason or a season and that reason may be to get your spark back and restore your faith in yourself that you are a pretty fucking awesome catch and anyone who does get to know you should consider himself (or herself) lucky that they did.
And if all this amounts to is just one great date – well then I am happy that it happened and I know I will be okay – because I already am.
Have a great rest of the week everyone – I start school Wednesday and it will be back to work as well. Today is a beach day with a great friend and her kids so just a little more R&R for me ahead.