Sorry I’ve been away from writing for a few days. Good news is I have a lot to discuss 😀
I took some much needed time off from work and was invited by my new/old guy to spend it at his shore house. We’re on day #6 together and are still having a blast. Today I have a close friend and her family coming down to go beach it with us and bbq later -very excited about him meeting them. Tomorrow wraps up our time away together.
There have been some bumps in the road, more his doing, but he is working past that and I’m being patient and understanding too. I will never compromise my own happiness or make concessions that I’m personally uncomfortable with, but I think all relationships need some key ingredients. If I had to season mine it would require dashes of:
attraction – you have to want to connect physically and mentally, yes it can grow deeper, but it’s got to be there. And I’ll say it – sex is important. He turns me on like none before him and I think it’s due to our compatibility in so many other aspects as well.
understanding/compromise – no one is perfect and neither are you
communication – one of the tougher ones but not talking about issues always leads to disaster
respect – not only for your partner but more importantly for yourself. If you continually let someone treat you like garbage then I think you need to look deep inside and figure out why.
acceptance and forgiveness – we all have quirks and make mistakes, as long as it does not involve mental or physical abuse, forgive and move forward.
laughter – nothing like it. My guy makes me laugh harder than any man has ever attempted and it’s priceless.
Compassion – if you continually cry and feel sad and/or anxious with your partner then it may be time to reassess why you’re holding on to him/her. No one should keep making you feel bad, no one. He/she needs to be there for you when you need them, and you for them too, even if its not always evident.
appreciation – It’s a two way street. If your partner only cares about what is happening to him/her and not you too then that is a huge red flag.
I have not included love, why? Shouldn’t that be the most important? I believe the word carries weight when there are true actions behind it. It can be easy to say it, but harder to live it.