I no longer tolerate vagueness in a relationship. I have never been afraid to speak my mind and sometimes I react before I think. But at least my partner always knows where he stands with me. As for me, I don’t want to view my partner through an opaque lens. I want honesty and openness. I want to know if there are doubts, hesitations or if he is worried about something between us. The truth hurts, but lies hurt more. Not everyone is a talker or wants to share their feelings, some people have a hard time expressing themselves. I won’t force dialogue but I won’t tolerate passive aggressiveness either. Been there, done that and it never ends well.
As for me, I have learned to also keep some things in my life private. I am transparent in my thoughts and feelings when I do write, but I also don’t write about everything that is happening to me. Blogging about yourself is an interesting process. People will form opinions of you when they read about your life, that is understandable as they are interpreting your words as they understand them. I think we sometimes forget that. I have not written much about my current relationship. Not because I am being opaque with my thoughts or feelings , I think it may be more of a self preservation tactic than anything else. I find that when I start writing about someone current too much, the relationship implodes. Or it may be that I’m just guarding my heart this time and letting it get stronger as my relationship does too.