I am a vocal person, an extrovert. This of course has advantages and disadvantages. On one hand, if you are in a relationship with me, you will always know where you stand. On the other hand, sometimes my mouth gets me into trouble because I am outspoken.
I was in a relationship years ago where the guy I was with was wonderful at making me feel loved, through both his words and actions, but was very passive aggressive when it came to expressing anything that bothered him.He let his frustrations build up to resentment, which is a relationship killer, and it killed ours.
I have also been in a relationship where the guy has told me exactly how he felt and called me out on my bullshit, for lack of a better word 🙂 and I have to say, although at times, it was hard to hear and sometimes stung, I at least knew where I stood.
Sometimes in our relationships we begin to run on automatic and assume we know what our partner is feeling and thinking. This is not always true. Assumptions also kill relationships. I have been the recipient of that thinking as well. But I also know that it is not easy, especially for an introvert, to express what he or she is feeling, but you have to do your best to communicate to your partner. I have married friends who keep a jar in their bedroom and they write notes to each other that they cannot express vocally. It might sound a little strange or quirky but it works for them. It helps to open up the conversations they need to have.
And yes, I do make mistakes with communication too. But I learn and move on. Don’t be afraid to say what you feel, it may not give you the response you want to hear but at least you will be heard. And listen to your partner, really listen, so they may be heard as well.