The perfect man or woman is a mythical creature, yet so many of us expect to find one. Act a certain way, look a certain way, be a certain way. Perfection is unattainable in relationships, but yet the moment something that may test your well-being happens or life just gets in the way, and you may find yourself acting differently than you normally would, is the time that many of our partners seem to run away. I’ve had some really good guys who stick by me and then there have been some who retreat or back away and those actions have hurt me the most. I don’t want the guy who will bring me roses, buy me expensive dinners or jewelry and then run away when the other shoe drops.
Although I am not one to give relationship advice given my track record, (or then again maybe I am one to give relationship given my track record!), I say just ask, always ask, are you okay? Sometimes that is all we, and especially I, need to hear. I now have two family members battling cancer. It is overwhelming and mentally draining. But thankfully I am in a strong mental place now, but it still scares me, what may lie ahead for them. New guy has already reached out a few times to ask if I’m doing okay. Those words have meant the world to me. He’s recently been through it with his Mom and understands. Even my ex in his own way has shown support when I told him. And my friends, well, they are perfect as far as I’m concerned. Their words and actions are everything to me, and more. Maybe they are my mythical creatures of perfection.
You will never hear me say I found my Prince Charming, he doesn’t exist. You will, however, hear me say “I found the guy who has my back, and who gets me” and that imperfect, real creature is the one who brings a smile to my face and fills my heart, every time. He is the one who makes me laugh, holds my hand, but most of all asks, Are you okay?