When do you stop trying to get an ex back?
How do you know when enough is enough? I’m speaking of the point where you give up trying to get back someone who you know in your heart is worth it but you cannot take the let down of any more attempts. I read how strong other people are, how they are able to cut off communication and move on, and then magically that person either comes back or leaves their life completely.
In many of my relationships I have a hard time reaching that point, of completely letting go. I try until my brain finally steps in and says ENOUGH! The funny thing is that only twice in my life has someone come back into it after significant time and both times it did not work out. Is it worth trying to exhaust every avenue or should you just walk away? Personal circumstances pushed my most recent ex and I apart, or I should say, him from me. It was and still is his issue, not mine. He just cannot handle the enormity of what has happened to him at this time.I don’t want to cut off all contact completely, but he has stopped responding to my efforts of reaching out. Some may call me foolish, maybe even desperate, but I am neither. I see the good in everyone and I felt we had something, even if it was for a short time. But right now he has to deal with something bigger than both of us. I also did not help the situation because I pushed him to communicate, when all he only needed was some understanding and time. Am I just making excuses? I’m not even sure I can answer that honestly.
I wear my heart on my sleeve. It is there for the taking, hurting and crushing. I am an open book. Unfortunately that is also my downfall. I feel, I talk, I share. I let people in. I trust. With every new relationship I swear that I will keep more to myself, but I don’t. I fail miserably in that department. I dislike playing games and will do whatever it takes to make it work, but only if I feel the person is worth it.
I consider myself a strong woman. I am also very warm, generous, loving and romantic. With me you will always know where you stand and how I feel. I’ve been through a lot in my life, more than some can imagine. But yet I can still love and be open to love, even after having my heart cut out of my chest over and over. Am I a hopeless romantic or just hopeless in maintaining a relationship?
I would love to hear stories of how you were successful in getting your ex back. What lengths did you go to win him/her back and did it work or backfire badly?